Take a minute to think about how “Success And Happiness” is.
Success And Happiness Are Two Diffirent Words: Now think about what method you use to test yourself. Some people may look into their bank account. Some with a variety of titles they have collected. Many would look at their relationship with their spouse, their children, their friends. Some may even open their wardrobe and look at their collection of designer shoes, bags and watches.
Do I consider myself “successful?” agreed. I have created a very good business; I am respected in my field; and I have many degrees. I love my home, and my relationship is strong.
But on the other hand, I do not have my own home. I sold my condo when I got divorced. And I’m overweight, which does not paint a picture of success – especially for a woman. Oh, and I left my PhD 93 pages in my dissertation.
To some people, I may not appear to be a breakthrough.
What do we mean by “success” anyway?
My friend and colleague Ryan Coelho says that the word “success” is synonymous with “God.” If you ask 100 people what it means, each of them will have a different answer. You are right.
At some level, we understand that real success is about happiness. We know this. We are not deep and we are picking up. And yet …
And yet most of us (ahem, even those of us who help people enjoy life) easily confuse the success of happiness – at least until we are wise.
Look up the word “success” and you will find the meaning of “success, power, prestige, or the like,” as well as the same meaning as “success,” “success,” and “fame.” I have nothing against the word success or even its common meaning. It’s just a word, after all. But let’s call it what it is. It is a symbol of performance and achievement – the measuring stick.
Practical metrics are important and have their place, especially in the business world. But if you are looking for personal fulfillment, it is unlikely that traditional success measures will get you there.
As a society, we now believe that success – things and circumstances – is Yellow Brick Road. Follow it, and we will definitely get to Emerald City. While there is nothing wrong with naturally seeking wealth, position, wealth, or prominence, it is a mistake to think that it opens the way to happiness and satisfaction.
“Success” is thrown around so often and in so many different situations that we forget what it really means. It is not clear, it covers everything, it catches everything. Success hangs before our eyes the things that we think will make us happy – status and so on.
But we really don’t want all that. What we want is the way we think things and situations will make us feel. The big difference. Success, when you boil it down, seems to be about what we think will make us happy. It is attractive, it is shiny and it is tempting – but there is one thing: You can do everything right to achieve cultural success, but happiness and personal satisfaction are not guaranteed.
Personally, at the height of my “success”, I was very upset. I do not mean that there is a relationship between success and happiness, that there is simply no sincerity. They are two different things.
be (enter the success rate here) I will be happy. It will fail because one does not lead to the other.
How you define success and how you define happiness depends on you. But notice the difference.
We wish you happiness – and success.
